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I hope you enjoy and use the self help information I have carefully selected in this section, for children, teenagers and adult self development, interest, curiosity and pure soul comfort.
The techniques are very powerful, fast and effective. I give them to you with an open heart, in the hope that you will find that they open up your world to give you the full potential, possibilities and options that are available to you.
The following can be used by anybody, at any time, for anything. I have used these techniques with amazing success, and the results are immediate. I would encourage you to be open, honest and give yourself the time you deserve to adapt to the way you want to be, who you want to be. If you need more in depth information, help or advice go to the Help yourself section, for a one-to-one response.
Three B’s (3B’s)
Be yourself
Be happy
Be real
Being yourself is exactly who everyone wants you to be, but some people find it difficult to give themselves the time to understand, see or work out who it is they really are.
Being happy sounds easy – doesn’t it? And it is – it seriously is, once you know how.
Being real is where you are honest with yourself – if something is not working. It is being true to yourself, being able to admit to yourself that it is time to do or try something else.
There are hundreds of possibilities and options out there; it is up to you do decide what you want to do or where you want to go?
So now for the exercise:
Take time every day, no excuses, you could be on a bus, train, tube, during that time in the morning while you’re waiting for the alarm to go off, again! or lying on the couch after a full day.
Close your eyes and start to take some deep breaths, in through your nose and out slowly through your mouth, exhaling any negative thoughts, feelings, experiences that you may have encountered during the day.
Ask yourself – what do you want? Be specific, play with the images and make it your own. This question can relate to any situation or circumstances. Use positive language and visualise what you do want, not what you do not want!
When you are content with the image, ask yourself – how will you know when you get it?
You may be surprised at the answer to this. It always amazes me! Different people put different values to different things, and as we are unique it is only right that we would need to make, grow or tailor our lives to our own specifications. Being honest with yourself will allow you to get where you want to be faster, otherwise you will still get there, but you may take a few detours before you reach the final destination! And why wait?
Visualise it working out perfectly, the way you want it, from start to finish. Remember every idea starts with a single thought, the more detail and time you put into your vision, the more real it becomes.
Some people find it helpful to use a Focus Stone to concentrate and remind them of their ideal outcome.
Feedback or Failure!
This is amazing and so easy to use, especially with children and teenagers.
Adults have difficulty with failure, negative feedback and the concept that if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got! Children and teenagers have to learn that lesson and the earlier they learn it, the better they understand that just because things don’t turn out the way you want them to initially, there is no reason to throw in the towel, or get angry, frustrated or give up.
It means they need to think of another way to achieve what they want.
Exercise: Did it work out how you thought it would?
What did you want? What did you get? What could you do differently?
Think it through?
Plan “How” you are going to do it this time.
Even a slight change will give you different results – Try it!
It is only feedback, as long as you try you will get a result – just maybe not the result you wanted, so change something and get what you do want!
E.g. You have an exam, and the results are not what you hoped. You fail your driving test! You did not get into university.
You have a talk with your partner, daughter, son about a serious matter, and it does not go as you wanted it too.
You have a business meeting, the venue is double booked, the client is stressed, and will not wait and as a result they decide to cancel.
You have to give a presentation, which is one of your worst nightmares, speaking from previous experience!
You have an interview, and the last one was horrendous.
Ok so use the above – Set out a study plan and stick to it! Plan that serious talk for a time when you are both free and aware of the agenda! Check the venue is booked for you, provide some refreshments, and maybe a little feel good chat before the meeting – it helps to park the issues, to deal with the business, and they will feel accepted, valued and appreciated. There are techniques for presentations and interviews, such as, have a practice run, say it out loud, and visualise it, start to finish – it really works!
A response you can be proud of
Have you ever been in a situation where you were very tempted to give someone a piece of your mind? Do you want to say something but are afraid it will not come out right? Is what you say something you are able to reflect on with pride or shame? This exercise will help.
Exercise: When confronted with a difficult situation, take three deep breaths and exhale slowly. With each breath inhaled think peace, and whatever other quality you wish to display on this occasion, and with the out breath, exhale all negative emotions and feelings.
When you decide on the response you would be most proud of – take a deep breath and start talking, this will give you confidence, and sounds strong, clear, precise, and assertive.
These are techniques I use regularly with guaranteed success – Enjoy, remember the 3B’s, and let me know how you get on.
